We are constantly surrounded by statements like: "The best things come free." and all that positive thinking along. But is it really true? I mean, I get it that when people say that they mostly mean things like love, joy and friends. These things do, however, come free, but by free it's mostly considered as not including money. For all these things that I counted, true dedication and believing yourself are present and these kind of things are what truly makes a person rich. Not money, not some kick-ass career (that may have influenced on your inner self, though) or super yachts. It's something that comes from within and that really takes effort and time to possess. And to get there, it actually takes a whole different kind of price for what you really want. It demands hard work that is often not quite what rich people own. There is a beautiful quote by Patrick Meagher: "Some people are so poor all they have is money." And that is, sadly, often correct. People that were already born with a silver spoon in their mouth don't and can't learn anything about the harsh, or better yet, called real life. About what's it really like and what meaning is hidden behind it. I believe that a person throughout their life learns a lesson or better yet, finally understands what's it all about. Some people don't, some people do. And some people die looking for a hand to hold. Sometimes, finally understanding what's it about isn't the whole point, because usually some things are better left to be undiscovered, covered in mystery. Unfolding them would just spoil the surprise. So I think that's kinda the same with "searching" for meaning of life. It's pointless, life looses all its natural bliss and spark, the mystery. Sometimes we have to let ourselves loose, see where life gets us, accept everything with open arms. If something good comes up, keep it. If you have done a mistake, learn from it. If somebody leaves, let them go.
But I know to do such things isn't quite simple. And that is where we get when we are talking about true meaning of the phrase: "Best things in life are free." It's not always that simple and besides, people have different points of view. Some consider the word "free" as in not requiring money, some understand it as freedom and then others as something that fate/destiny has literally put in your life. I see it through the latter, I must confess. Though I still don't have some concept completely solved for instance does everything really happen for a reason or do we tailor our own future, therefore we are considered responsible for each thing we did, do and will do? I do, however, believe one grows up when he is taking full responsibility for one's actions, that's undeniable and non negotiable. Things like that simply stand as life facts and rules. So that kinda refers to the latter statement, which says that we are utterly responsible for every action. But actions are caused by feelings or better; you do things because of what you feel, how you feel right at that moment. Maybe we regret it, maybe we learn from it, but we did it because of feelings. And how does the commonly known (I hope) truth goes about feelings? "We can control what we feel." There is a perfect quote for that kind of situation by the amazing Johnny Depp that goes: "You can close your eyes to the things you don't want to see, but you can't close your heart to the things you don't want to feel." So that sums it up pretty well, huh? Well, I won't argue with Johnny and I must admit those words are true. You may fake feelings at the end, but what you feel at first instant is what matters and what makes you who you are.
So we came so far already, pointing out what truly matters in life: what we feel and our actions caused by our feelings. Who stands by our side when times get rough and making the best out of things that we have. But are the best things in life really things? You must have come across a picture (like that one above) with saying "Best things in life aren't things." That is, again, very relative, referring to different points of view. But let me explain mine, since you're reading this just because you want to hear my opinion, of course: I think best things that happen in our life aren't really things. I think it's what we make of the things we have that truly makes us who we are. And that is wealth that cannot compare to material one in thousand years. It's something only special people possess and those kind of people are keepers for sure. You can't consider lucky for finding these kind of people, though. When you find your best friend for example. I believe to meet people like you, you first have to be sure of who you are and your actions, your being. That's when you can start conquering the world, facing it yourself and being able to fight for yourself; especially your beliefs and dreams. That's when people start approaching to you. There's a quote is most suitable that goes "You are not free until you have no need to impress anybody." by great Joyce Meyer. And when you do reach that point, like I said, people start to come to you, because they like the same things as you do and for me, that's what growing up really is. Being independent and confident. You don't need someone's attention if you even have to ask for it. Even by that you can tell that this person is not right for you: not only in romantic way, but also in friendships. Those are the people that are simply not meant to be in your life. Although, we might (saying this from personal experience) try very hard (and eventually succeed) to get one's attention because there's simply something about them that attracts you infinitely. Something that pulls you closer to them and just makes you want to be around them all the time. It's not necessarily a boy/girl you've fallen in love with (maybe just because of their looks, to be honest, that's the usual case), it's often a person you just want to become very good friends with. I've fallen in love too many times with people I knew they weren't the right ones for me. Eventually I've made a compromise with myself that I just want to get to know them, so my love for them would be affirmed. Just to get to know what music they like, what story hides behind a poem they love, why do they do things and their experiences. I want to know the details, the small things that matter a lot to people and they just don't realize it until they start talking about it with someone. And I want to be that someone. I want to make them realize that those things do matter and I want to be there for them as they do and when they realize how I opened their eyes. Well, I know I'm being a bit narcissistic here, but I can't help it. I love this quote which author is unknown that perfectly describes my current mental state (I found it on Tumblr if it's any help): "I am so thirsty for emotional and physical intimacy with someone. I want to nuzzle their neck and lay entwined on my bed and lazily kiss their lips and make them food, get to know every single curve and contour they have. I want to touch someone with my finger tips and make them feel loved."
And I miss that. Being someone's special even though I never really belonged to anyone. I meant that stuff with Jan. Anyway, those are the things that matter the most. Love, joy and peace. The first one is hard to find in people, the second one hard to find in the world and the last one is hard to find in oneself. Because you have to be brave for learning and getting all those things. I thought being tough and careless was the good thing, not having a care in the world. But it's actually being able to love and give love all around that is truly the cure for everyone. That's the risky part, being able to let yourself care. Many people underestimate that, even more take advantage of this wonderful ability not lots of people left possess. It's sad to think that loving something or someone is now treated as weakness and not as a sign of true courage and bravery. I don't get this, I really don't. I will treasure that quality in my friends and people around me and make sure they don't feel guilty for it. Because after all: what do we have from life if not making each other's a bit brighter? Not for making them feel guilty for something they feel. That's like a number one unwritten rule of life: not making someone regret their emotions and feelings. But people still do that. Still thinking that's weakness. Being able to love. Yet when times get rough you realize that's the only thing you've got left. And for people who don't let love in their lives and share it around themselves are doomed in this world.
But I know to do such things isn't quite simple. And that is where we get when we are talking about true meaning of the phrase: "Best things in life are free." It's not always that simple and besides, people have different points of view. Some consider the word "free" as in not requiring money, some understand it as freedom and then others as something that fate/destiny has literally put in your life. I see it through the latter, I must confess. Though I still don't have some concept completely solved for instance does everything really happen for a reason or do we tailor our own future, therefore we are considered responsible for each thing we did, do and will do? I do, however, believe one grows up when he is taking full responsibility for one's actions, that's undeniable and non negotiable. Things like that simply stand as life facts and rules. So that kinda refers to the latter statement, which says that we are utterly responsible for every action. But actions are caused by feelings or better; you do things because of what you feel, how you feel right at that moment. Maybe we regret it, maybe we learn from it, but we did it because of feelings. And how does the commonly known (I hope) truth goes about feelings? "We can control what we feel." There is a perfect quote for that kind of situation by the amazing Johnny Depp that goes: "You can close your eyes to the things you don't want to see, but you can't close your heart to the things you don't want to feel." So that sums it up pretty well, huh? Well, I won't argue with Johnny and I must admit those words are true. You may fake feelings at the end, but what you feel at first instant is what matters and what makes you who you are. So we came so far already, pointing out what truly matters in life: what we feel and our actions caused by our feelings. Who stands by our side when times get rough and making the best out of things that we have. But are the best things in life really things? You must have come across a picture (like that one above) with saying "Best things in life aren't things." That is, again, very relative, referring to different points of view. But let me explain mine, since you're reading this just because you want to hear my opinion, of course: I think best things that happen in our life aren't really things. I think it's what we make of the things we have that truly makes us who we are. And that is wealth that cannot compare to material one in thousand years. It's something only special people possess and those kind of people are keepers for sure. You can't consider lucky for finding these kind of people, though. When you find your best friend for example. I believe to meet people like you, you first have to be sure of who you are and your actions, your being. That's when you can start conquering the world, facing it yourself and being able to fight for yourself; especially your beliefs and dreams. That's when people start approaching to you. There's a quote is most suitable that goes "You are not free until you have no need to impress anybody." by great Joyce Meyer. And when you do reach that point, like I said, people start to come to you, because they like the same things as you do and for me, that's what growing up really is. Being independent and confident. You don't need someone's attention if you even have to ask for it. Even by that you can tell that this person is not right for you: not only in romantic way, but also in friendships. Those are the people that are simply not meant to be in your life. Although, we might (saying this from personal experience) try very hard (and eventually succeed) to get one's attention because there's simply something about them that attracts you infinitely. Something that pulls you closer to them and just makes you want to be around them all the time. It's not necessarily a boy/girl you've fallen in love with (maybe just because of their looks, to be honest, that's the usual case), it's often a person you just want to become very good friends with. I've fallen in love too many times with people I knew they weren't the right ones for me. Eventually I've made a compromise with myself that I just want to get to know them, so my love for them would be affirmed. Just to get to know what music they like, what story hides behind a poem they love, why do they do things and their experiences. I want to know the details, the small things that matter a lot to people and they just don't realize it until they start talking about it with someone. And I want to be that someone. I want to make them realize that those things do matter and I want to be there for them as they do and when they realize how I opened their eyes. Well, I know I'm being a bit narcissistic here, but I can't help it. I love this quote which author is unknown that perfectly describes my current mental state (I found it on Tumblr if it's any help): "I am so thirsty for emotional and physical intimacy with someone. I want to nuzzle their neck and lay entwined on my bed and lazily kiss their lips and make them food, get to know every single curve and contour they have. I want to touch someone with my finger tips and make them feel loved."
And I miss that. Being someone's special even though I never really belonged to anyone. I meant that stuff with Jan. Anyway, those are the things that matter the most. Love, joy and peace. The first one is hard to find in people, the second one hard to find in the world and the last one is hard to find in oneself. Because you have to be brave for learning and getting all those things. I thought being tough and careless was the good thing, not having a care in the world. But it's actually being able to love and give love all around that is truly the cure for everyone. That's the risky part, being able to let yourself care. Many people underestimate that, even more take advantage of this wonderful ability not lots of people left possess. It's sad to think that loving something or someone is now treated as weakness and not as a sign of true courage and bravery. I don't get this, I really don't. I will treasure that quality in my friends and people around me and make sure they don't feel guilty for it. Because after all: what do we have from life if not making each other's a bit brighter? Not for making them feel guilty for something they feel. That's like a number one unwritten rule of life: not making someone regret their emotions and feelings. But people still do that. Still thinking that's weakness. Being able to love. Yet when times get rough you realize that's the only thing you've got left. And for people who don't let love in their lives and share it around themselves are doomed in this world.
So the best thing you can have in life I guess is being able to love and let love find you. And I mean any kind of love really; being able to love yourself as the people around you. Share it, feel it, set it free and let it light up your soul. That's the only thing that keeps you on your feet, I mean the only thing that really counts in the end. Anyway, I won't chew over a subject that has been writen about in so many books and magazines and songs, pretty much everywhere. But I thought like for a very long time, after the break up with Jan, that loving someone is wrong and a typical sign of weakness. So I built walls around myself, not letting myself feel anything anymore about anyone. But after a while of keeping distance with people I came up with this conclusion that the seeming shield on the outside will not help me get out of this black hole unless I start fixing myself first. And I let myself love as much as I possibly could. But at the same time I was paying more caution to who I can open up to and with whom I can be completely myself with. And those kind of people are keepers. So by being honest to myself as to the people around me, I noticed that the right people will find me. And they did. I quit worrying if I'll ever find someone who I can trust with my life bet on it because I believed in myself and that I am capable just as much as everyone around me are. And for quite a long time I was convienced there's something wrong with me. But as soon as you start being honest to yourself and not hiding and denying your feelings, you'll start coping with life. Once you start loving life, it will return the same to you. Funny, isn't it? The hell you have to go through to finally realize you're just as normal as the people around you are. But only on the surface, though. They say everybody's normal until you get to know them. And that is true for sure.
I guess now the moral of the story is to be true yourself to get the best thing on life. Maybe it won't get you much friends, but it will sure get you the right ones. And now the decision is on you: whether you want to have lots of friends or being with the right ones. That's often a dilemma present with the kids today. But I guess I can say that in my opinion, popularity is for mediocre people. Not like enjoying being popular, because if you are, you just are. Are you gonna simply reject the beautiful gift life has given you? Being loved? I understand sometimes you can be under huge pressure and that being popular doesn't always mean getting the right friends at the right time. But actually begging for attention and being at the center of everything every time is a bit overreacting, don't you think? I mean, I think life's a bit more that just wanting to be in someone else's. Let them find you, first pay attention to yourself. Because you don't live your life for others, neither do they for you. So I think the best option one has is to quit worrying about other people and what kind of things are rambling inside their heads, because, honestly, you'll never have an influence on that. People are going to talk about you whether you're doing bad or good. It doesn't matter. The true sign of intelligence and intellectual capability is to not care at all. And trust me, that works with the guys/girls as well. It's a well-tested theory. But it's more important that you do these things for yourself. Because you want to be happy and make peace with your inner self. It's more important for your future-self than you can imagine.
You must always keep in mind, though, that the things you want to achieve in life - the hard, worthy ones - do not come by themselves. Any kind of stuff really; from actual things to concepts of something, possessing something that enriches you from within. And letting the whole light of life and love it contains come inside you, is what is keeping you alive. What makes you one with nature. What brings you the good things.
(C) Every artwork used is from Google and Tumblr
You must always keep in mind, though, that the things you want to achieve in life - the hard, worthy ones - do not come by themselves. Any kind of stuff really; from actual things to concepts of something, possessing something that enriches you from within. And letting the whole light of life and love it contains come inside you, is what is keeping you alive. What makes you one with nature. What brings you the good things.
(C) Every artwork used is from Google and Tumblr
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