Here it is, the day we've all been waiting for; the ones that have a cute crush on somebody, who might finally reveal their love for someone. The ones that are already in a relationship and that kind of day makes them notice how much they love their partners. But this day has a special meaning to another type of people. Yeah, I think you've guessed correctly. The single ones. I'm not about to whine about my (apparent) infinite single life, without any single spark of romance whatsoever, but I'm going to write some like basic facts about Valentine's Day that I approve and some that really piss me off. Well, I won't deny that I hate this day either, it's just that I won't be (or I do not wish to be) another cliche of a ugly girl failure. Because you get enough of that shit in the movies, books and songs, so I think the last thing you wish is that you get more of that bullshit here. I can pass you the good news that you won't get that here. Even though it may sound cynic from time to time and seem like I hold a huge grudge against someone, I don't think that'll be the whole story. You see, whenever I write about something, never mind which subject, I want to do it from as many points of view as I can. Because that way more people can identify with the post and the whole blog thing and I think that's the best way of putting it, but still letting your own opinion rule, because after all: it is your blog that you are running and your experience of the holy Valentine's Day.
Anyway, I think Valentine's Day is like the greatest day in the history of greatest days for many shops as well, especially the florist's. I won't deny being hooked by the whole cute romance going on and, you know, the whole idea of making someone's day. I love romance, I love the gestures and the effort that people put into the whole action for making their loved ones happier. I really cherish that, maybe because I lack of any kind of love in my life and that's how I know how important it actually is. That's why I appreciate it, that's why I keep it close whenever someone says anything nice to me, because then (even if not like in a boyfriend/girlfriend way), even if for a brief moment, I am loved. Someone thinks of me and it feels more than nice. Today, when we had informative days on our high-school and represent the system to primary school students, which will apply to high-schools next year and we have to do our best. Anyway, there was this guy that was in gym during the day. I kinda set my mind on him. But I don't think it's anything special, like just a casual crush, you know. Anyway, just when I was about to leave school, he was casually sitting there, on a bench by my locker. He had a small towel on his shoulder, wearing a tight grey shirt (that way I could see his perfect body structure. Okay, let's not get into the details) and blue shorts. There was also a professor near by and some of his friends as well. Nevertheless, while I was unlocking the locker, I quickly glanced to him and he was already staring. It was one of those quick moments that if you two were alone you'd probably speak up, but definitely not when people are around. I'm pretty shy, so I instantly looked away, hoping I wasn't blushing like an idiot. I sit on the bench opposite him, occasionally met his eyes with mine while dressing up. There were a nice couple of moments when I really felt the connection. It was nice, being the center of someone's attention, even if for couple of seconds. It felt nice, having someone's eyes on you. But please please please, let that last. In both directions, once for a change.
Valentine's day is a usually day filled with love and excitement in the air. But is it always like that? And first I mean is it always fun and cheerful? As many of you might know, this day also has many enemies that hold a deep grudge. I mean, not necessarily something has happened to them, but it's just something about it that annoys them. And they have the whole right. I hate it when cute, happy couples say that you should anyways enjoy the "holiday" and share the spirit. I'm not very fond of this holiday as well, but I won't really whine about it. Okay, I might say my opinion about it when we're already talking about that day. But otherwise, I don't really see the point in hating the couples and blaming the whole world for your misfortune or hard luck. I think it's nice to see the love that is shared around you. I love this quote by unknown author: "I think I fall in love a little bit with anyone who shows me their soul. This world is so guarded and fearful. I appreciate rawness so much." It's not that I enjoy the harshness of the world, it's just that this is what keeps it real. What reminds me that I'm still alive. Another quote (sorry, I'm kinda addicted) is from my favorite book The Fault In Our Stars: "That's the thing about pain. It demands to be felt." Because only then you realize how thankful you are for all the things that have happened to you. You had the privilege to experience all these things. Don't think that's true? Well, I'll give you a word of advice how to look on things that happen to you a bit more positively. When you think about what's changing in your life or what has been happening around you or to you, you feel like nothing's changed at all. But when you look just a year back, everything was different. That's why I don't take things that are going on right now for granted. Because one day everything will blend in together. From that moment on, everything will lose its meaning and the greatness it held. That is why I appreciate a little bit of everything that happens in my life, because I know that without it, my life would be totally different. Of course, I wouldn't know it if it were a different life, but still. Sometimes we wonder why bad things happen to us. Like, what do we really get from it? Okay, I get it, experience and boring stuff like that. I won't tire you with that crap. What you really get is that a piece inside you clicks. Like, it changes position. It goes, even if for a millimeter, to the right direction, towards the way it is supposed to be. But that's the whole point. Those piece inside us; they change and shift all the time. That's how we learn. Maybe sometimes we thought they are already in the right spot, that we've everything already figured out. But life often surprises us with new challenges, new adventures from which we gain more than just experience. We gain ourselves each time.
And now the main thing that's really bothering me about this 'love day'. I mentioned before how all the shops go crazy on the 14th of February just because of this special day. Well, I'll tell you what; that's what is the matter with this whole "holiday" or the celebration of love, as some would call it. Love is not supposed to be celebrated only on this exact day. It is not supposed to bring you excitement only for this day, waiting for your lover to arrive since you've made him a surprise. Or waiting for letters or flowers. The whole world is just ... Waiting. Like this day is their only chance, their only real opportunity to express and show love. That is what's really wrong. The missed concept of 'love'. It is supposed to be celebrated, shared, enjoyed, spread, accepted and mostly given on daily basis. And that's the huge problem I've been noticing for quite a few years. They're even making movies about this very day. How about they make a movie about ordinary day, showing a few couples how they give and receive love every day. Of course they won't make such a dull movie, without any plot whatsoever. But I'd love to see a movie like that. Just plain, random people being in crazy, stupid love. Are you wondering why they don't make movies like that? Because I've been. And the answer is that so many complicated stories happen on Valentine's: people get engaged, they fight, they divorce, they have sex, they realize the meaning of love, how blessed they are to have met such wonderful people, they go to fine restaurants, ... I have enough of this. Because have you spotted something? In my list of what people do especially on Valentine's day? Let me help you: it's like any other day. Didn't expect that, did you? Things like that still happen every day, really. Just around the corner. But it's all soooo much more dramatic on Valentine's day, because it's like it's supposed to happen on this very day. It's like the whole world has been brainwashed and is sorta superstitious about these things. But they wouldn't be that much if they only accepted what they've been given and appreciate it through each day. But people won't realize that. They will now stop giving gifts to each other, stop making each other happy and wait until the next year. I'm sure there's many people out there who do things like that every day, like I hope more would in future. But there's just something about this day that really annoys me. The whole city's painted in red, red roses are given to people on the streets by random people, they laugh, they are happy. It annoys me to know, that the day after all this circus, it will be a plain day, like the rest of the year. Dull, without any excitement whatsoever, filling the tiring and exhausting daily routine. We are short of love on the daily basis. We think giving and receiving love on this particular day will do and that'll be it, the relationship will be saved and guarded. But that's false. That's the thing about love. It needs to be taken care of every day, like a flower, or else it dies. Simple as that. Small gestures, that brighten up your day.
They really make you believe, you know? I guess I just stopped believing in love. I just don't see the point anymore. But that does not mean I don't wish others to be as unhappy as me. Quite the opposite actually; I want to make them happy. You see, I have this huge amount of rising love inside me, coming out of me, that is slowly killing me. Sentiment (read that in Loki's voice).
But no matter if you're single or not, you can enjoy this day as well. I saw this photo on Facebook by Humans of New York of a man holding three big paper bags and one red balloon in his hand. I thought it was really nice, like Valentine's-Day-like and thought it wasn't anything special, but I had to read the caption as well, because that blog isn't famous about posting ordinary posts about 'just' people. Maybe it seems like pretty boring on the first look, just posting pics of random people, but it's actually really interesting blog (or a page, whatever). Anyway, the caption said that all the things were for his friends. And personally, I think that's the most selfless, humble and special thing to do to any kind of human being, regardless of your relationship status. He did this simply from his soft heart and sense for others. And that is what people should do more often. Feel the need to spread that love around not to wish something in return as well. But simply because you'd like to see them happy. You'd like to see that honest smile on their lips as they receive a small gift that actually means a lot. Maybe it is not that selfless in the end: your heart is warm as well. Even though someone hasn't done the same to you, you put that aside. You put others first. Sometimes that's the best healing you get. Focusing on others for some time. To much thinking about yourself and what you could have done better, overthinking the situation and your own spoken words is a silent killer. Slowly growing into your soul and then overtakes your mind. So you must not let that happen. That's why we need to think of others as well. You never know who can be lonely just the same as you are, maybe even more so. And always think that you could have it worse. But from my point of view, judging from my experiences and where I come from, my circumstances: there's nothing more lethal for a young soul than to be lonely. I know how much pain that brings. So to differ from others, put that pain beside. Let happiness overtake your heart and share it each day, not only on that 'special' day. You'll see how much effect it'll have not only on you, but on the people around you as well. Love was created to be shared, not to be taken. Bloom where you are planted. Make the best of everything you have. For only then, you'll know true happiness. The rest will follow.
(C) Every artwork used is from Google and Tumblr
Anyway, I think Valentine's Day is like the greatest day in the history of greatest days for many shops as well, especially the florist's. I won't deny being hooked by the whole cute romance going on and, you know, the whole idea of making someone's day. I love romance, I love the gestures and the effort that people put into the whole action for making their loved ones happier. I really cherish that, maybe because I lack of any kind of love in my life and that's how I know how important it actually is. That's why I appreciate it, that's why I keep it close whenever someone says anything nice to me, because then (even if not like in a boyfriend/girlfriend way), even if for a brief moment, I am loved. Someone thinks of me and it feels more than nice. Today, when we had informative days on our high-school and represent the system to primary school students, which will apply to high-schools next year and we have to do our best. Anyway, there was this guy that was in gym during the day. I kinda set my mind on him. But I don't think it's anything special, like just a casual crush, you know. Anyway, just when I was about to leave school, he was casually sitting there, on a bench by my locker. He had a small towel on his shoulder, wearing a tight grey shirt (that way I could see his perfect body structure. Okay, let's not get into the details) and blue shorts. There was also a professor near by and some of his friends as well. Nevertheless, while I was unlocking the locker, I quickly glanced to him and he was already staring. It was one of those quick moments that if you two were alone you'd probably speak up, but definitely not when people are around. I'm pretty shy, so I instantly looked away, hoping I wasn't blushing like an idiot. I sit on the bench opposite him, occasionally met his eyes with mine while dressing up. There were a nice couple of moments when I really felt the connection. It was nice, being the center of someone's attention, even if for couple of seconds. It felt nice, having someone's eyes on you. But please please please, let that last. In both directions, once for a change.Valentine's day is a usually day filled with love and excitement in the air. But is it always like that? And first I mean is it always fun and cheerful? As many of you might know, this day also has many enemies that hold a deep grudge. I mean, not necessarily something has happened to them, but it's just something about it that annoys them. And they have the whole right. I hate it when cute, happy couples say that you should anyways enjoy the "holiday" and share the spirit. I'm not very fond of this holiday as well, but I won't really whine about it. Okay, I might say my opinion about it when we're already talking about that day. But otherwise, I don't really see the point in hating the couples and blaming the whole world for your misfortune or hard luck. I think it's nice to see the love that is shared around you. I love this quote by unknown author: "I think I fall in love a little bit with anyone who shows me their soul. This world is so guarded and fearful. I appreciate rawness so much." It's not that I enjoy the harshness of the world, it's just that this is what keeps it real. What reminds me that I'm still alive. Another quote (sorry, I'm kinda addicted) is from my favorite book The Fault In Our Stars: "That's the thing about pain. It demands to be felt." Because only then you realize how thankful you are for all the things that have happened to you. You had the privilege to experience all these things. Don't think that's true? Well, I'll give you a word of advice how to look on things that happen to you a bit more positively. When you think about what's changing in your life or what has been happening around you or to you, you feel like nothing's changed at all. But when you look just a year back, everything was different. That's why I don't take things that are going on right now for granted. Because one day everything will blend in together. From that moment on, everything will lose its meaning and the greatness it held. That is why I appreciate a little bit of everything that happens in my life, because I know that without it, my life would be totally different. Of course, I wouldn't know it if it were a different life, but still. Sometimes we wonder why bad things happen to us. Like, what do we really get from it? Okay, I get it, experience and boring stuff like that. I won't tire you with that crap. What you really get is that a piece inside you clicks. Like, it changes position. It goes, even if for a millimeter, to the right direction, towards the way it is supposed to be. But that's the whole point. Those piece inside us; they change and shift all the time. That's how we learn. Maybe sometimes we thought they are already in the right spot, that we've everything already figured out. But life often surprises us with new challenges, new adventures from which we gain more than just experience. We gain ourselves each time.
And now the main thing that's really bothering me about this 'love day'. I mentioned before how all the shops go crazy on the 14th of February just because of this special day. Well, I'll tell you what; that's what is the matter with this whole "holiday" or the celebration of love, as some would call it. Love is not supposed to be celebrated only on this exact day. It is not supposed to bring you excitement only for this day, waiting for your lover to arrive since you've made him a surprise. Or waiting for letters or flowers. The whole world is just ... Waiting. Like this day is their only chance, their only real opportunity to express and show love. That is what's really wrong. The missed concept of 'love'. It is supposed to be celebrated, shared, enjoyed, spread, accepted and mostly given on daily basis. And that's the huge problem I've been noticing for quite a few years. They're even making movies about this very day. How about they make a movie about ordinary day, showing a few couples how they give and receive love every day. Of course they won't make such a dull movie, without any plot whatsoever. But I'd love to see a movie like that. Just plain, random people being in crazy, stupid love. Are you wondering why they don't make movies like that? Because I've been. And the answer is that so many complicated stories happen on Valentine's: people get engaged, they fight, they divorce, they have sex, they realize the meaning of love, how blessed they are to have met such wonderful people, they go to fine restaurants, ... I have enough of this. Because have you spotted something? In my list of what people do especially on Valentine's day? Let me help you: it's like any other day. Didn't expect that, did you? Things like that still happen every day, really. Just around the corner. But it's all soooo much more dramatic on Valentine's day, because it's like it's supposed to happen on this very day. It's like the whole world has been brainwashed and is sorta superstitious about these things. But they wouldn't be that much if they only accepted what they've been given and appreciate it through each day. But people won't realize that. They will now stop giving gifts to each other, stop making each other happy and wait until the next year. I'm sure there's many people out there who do things like that every day, like I hope more would in future. But there's just something about this day that really annoys me. The whole city's painted in red, red roses are given to people on the streets by random people, they laugh, they are happy. It annoys me to know, that the day after all this circus, it will be a plain day, like the rest of the year. Dull, without any excitement whatsoever, filling the tiring and exhausting daily routine. We are short of love on the daily basis. We think giving and receiving love on this particular day will do and that'll be it, the relationship will be saved and guarded. But that's false. That's the thing about love. It needs to be taken care of every day, like a flower, or else it dies. Simple as that. Small gestures, that brighten up your day.They really make you believe, you know? I guess I just stopped believing in love. I just don't see the point anymore. But that does not mean I don't wish others to be as unhappy as me. Quite the opposite actually; I want to make them happy. You see, I have this huge amount of rising love inside me, coming out of me, that is slowly killing me. Sentiment (read that in Loki's voice).
But no matter if you're single or not, you can enjoy this day as well. I saw this photo on Facebook by Humans of New York of a man holding three big paper bags and one red balloon in his hand. I thought it was really nice, like Valentine's-Day-like and thought it wasn't anything special, but I had to read the caption as well, because that blog isn't famous about posting ordinary posts about 'just' people. Maybe it seems like pretty boring on the first look, just posting pics of random people, but it's actually really interesting blog (or a page, whatever). Anyway, the caption said that all the things were for his friends. And personally, I think that's the most selfless, humble and special thing to do to any kind of human being, regardless of your relationship status. He did this simply from his soft heart and sense for others. And that is what people should do more often. Feel the need to spread that love around not to wish something in return as well. But simply because you'd like to see them happy. You'd like to see that honest smile on their lips as they receive a small gift that actually means a lot. Maybe it is not that selfless in the end: your heart is warm as well. Even though someone hasn't done the same to you, you put that aside. You put others first. Sometimes that's the best healing you get. Focusing on others for some time. To much thinking about yourself and what you could have done better, overthinking the situation and your own spoken words is a silent killer. Slowly growing into your soul and then overtakes your mind. So you must not let that happen. That's why we need to think of others as well. You never know who can be lonely just the same as you are, maybe even more so. And always think that you could have it worse. But from my point of view, judging from my experiences and where I come from, my circumstances: there's nothing more lethal for a young soul than to be lonely. I know how much pain that brings. So to differ from others, put that pain beside. Let happiness overtake your heart and share it each day, not only on that 'special' day. You'll see how much effect it'll have not only on you, but on the people around you as well. Love was created to be shared, not to be taken. Bloom where you are planted. Make the best of everything you have. For only then, you'll know true happiness. The rest will follow.
(C) Every artwork used is from Google and Tumblr
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