Small things. What first comes to your mind? I first think of goodnight kiss,to memorizing a detail of someone, smiles, hugs, ... But what are those things or where do we put them? Are they just words in books we all wish to do or say to each other, but always have an excuse not to? Or are they real actions that people do for each other if they really do care for each other? I think they're most common definition of love.
We always take them for granted, though when we look back, it was them that mattered. That defined someone's love for us. I think many people don't do those stuff, because it would make them just like everybody else. And they don't wanna be like everyone else. But mostly; the think it's overrated. They think it's just another cliché woman likes to hear. Many men have excuses like women just watch too many romantic comedies and fall in love with an idea of love. That is the lamest excuse I've ever heard. So in their head, we're the guilty one because they are not capable of saying a few nice words? Because they would somehow lose their manhood or what? I think that's pathetic and totally men-brain like. Well, we're never know what's going inside men's head. I think their afraid of showing their soft side. Because everyone has one, right? I know they do. They must.
Anyway, even men have their way of showing their love for a woman. In certain way. Each man does it differently, though. That's way women should always be themselves, because that's the only way someone is going to love you for the real you. I don't get it how they pretend to be someone or pretend to like stuff just to be with someone, when in the end, all the lies will come out. So what's the point? They're only gonna make everyone miserable and themselves the most. So even though I don't have a boyfriend ATM, I just comfort myself with the thought that someone will like me for me. Someone does love same things I do and we will meet. One day. Hopefully.
I also kinda believe in marriage and wedding and (again) all those cliché things connected with love. I kinda believe you meet a certain person on your lifetime path that changes your life completely and forever. That you do come across a certain point that you changes you. And it's not necessarily a bad thing that happens, what matters is what you do next. That is what defines you.
Let's get to the bottom of it now; there is some sort of magic recipe in all those over-fifty-years marriages that everyone's dreaming about. The secret is to sort things out when it gets tough, not to just leave it there. Just because it requires some work and effort, doesn't mean it's all broken and that you have to let it go now. I mean, even I get this. But I also know it's hard to get to it. Thinking about it is something, but actually doing it; well, that's whole other story. But things like marriages are a commitment you were willing to accept. You said no matter what. Then prove it. Of course, you must have thought like: "What does this girl knows about marriage, commitment and love in general?" Well, let me just say this: I've learned from the best. Who? Maybe my mom and dad, maybe from my grandparents who have been married for over 50 years. I don't really know. I guess there is no correct or right answer to this question, because you learn on the path. You learn along the way. You learn from the relationships you know and from the people you know and their relationships. You kinda know what you would do instead, you learn what you SHOULDN'T do and so you keep and keep learning stuff. Stuff that you don't even realize you're learning, but it just goes to your head like an information worth keeping. I guess your brain just automatically recognizes the important stuff and locks it inside. Apart from school stuff; things you learn in school just keep slipping away, I think. Nevertheless, you never stop learning. And you shouldn't. Because in life you always somehow get a second chance, even if maybe not in the concrete form you wanted to, but it does give you a chance. A second chance to make up your mistakes. It's just the opposite like in school; in school you learn a lesson and then given a test, when in life you're given a test and then taught a lesson.
Anyway, if you really love someone, there's just nothing that could break your love. Maybe parents, like in Romeo and Juliet. They can really be obnoxious sometimes, but I believe that's just because they want you well. Maybe they want to push you away from all the bad things love can bring and we think they're just overprotective. And yes, it usually is that way. It's often about the grudge they hold deep inside them that they don't wanna pass on their children, when in most cases - that is exactly what happens. I understand all the parent thing and keeping their kids from harm, but mostly their dragging us away from something they just don't understand. Something they're afraid of. And it's natural, I think. But wrong. We should learn our way, make our mistakes and do it our way. Because if we only live the way they want us to; what do we have from our life? Thank God I live in this time and not some medieval era where they'd probably lock me up somewhere if I opposed my parents even a little bit. We definitely live in more developed time, that's for sure and with time we became more rebellious and free-minded, too. I think it's important that we keep ourselves like that. Not endangering anyone, of course, but keeping it real. Keeping it young.
We always take them for granted, though when we look back, it was them that mattered. That defined someone's love for us. I think many people don't do those stuff, because it would make them just like everybody else. And they don't wanna be like everyone else. But mostly; the think it's overrated. They think it's just another cliché woman likes to hear. Many men have excuses like women just watch too many romantic comedies and fall in love with an idea of love. That is the lamest excuse I've ever heard. So in their head, we're the guilty one because they are not capable of saying a few nice words? Because they would somehow lose their manhood or what? I think that's pathetic and totally men-brain like. Well, we're never know what's going inside men's head. I think their afraid of showing their soft side. Because everyone has one, right? I know they do. They must.
Anyway, even men have their way of showing their love for a woman. In certain way. Each man does it differently, though. That's way women should always be themselves, because that's the only way someone is going to love you for the real you. I don't get it how they pretend to be someone or pretend to like stuff just to be with someone, when in the end, all the lies will come out. So what's the point? They're only gonna make everyone miserable and themselves the most. So even though I don't have a boyfriend ATM, I just comfort myself with the thought that someone will like me for me. Someone does love same things I do and we will meet. One day. Hopefully.
I also kinda believe in marriage and wedding and (again) all those cliché things connected with love. I kinda believe you meet a certain person on your lifetime path that changes your life completely and forever. That you do come across a certain point that you changes you. And it's not necessarily a bad thing that happens, what matters is what you do next. That is what defines you.
Anyway, if you really love someone, there's just nothing that could break your love. Maybe parents, like in Romeo and Juliet. They can really be obnoxious sometimes, but I believe that's just because they want you well. Maybe they want to push you away from all the bad things love can bring and we think they're just overprotective. And yes, it usually is that way. It's often about the grudge they hold deep inside them that they don't wanna pass on their children, when in most cases - that is exactly what happens. I understand all the parent thing and keeping their kids from harm, but mostly their dragging us away from something they just don't understand. Something they're afraid of. And it's natural, I think. But wrong. We should learn our way, make our mistakes and do it our way. Because if we only live the way they want us to; what do we have from our life? Thank God I live in this time and not some medieval era where they'd probably lock me up somewhere if I opposed my parents even a little bit. We definitely live in more developed time, that's for sure and with time we became more rebellious and free-minded, too. I think it's important that we keep ourselves like that. Not endangering anyone, of course, but keeping it real. Keeping it young.
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