Sometimes we get confused with what means to be a hero. For small children a hero would be like a cartoon or a comic hero, something with supernatural powers. For young people it would be someone with a successful job, a roof above their head and being independent. For adults it would be someone with a family that s/he can support. For elder it would be someone who has lived a life that is full, someone who has no regrets. But when it comes to teenagers or adolescents we're pretty much lost. We can't pick certain things out of their mind because it's so complicated. We can't just choose and dig through their minds and souls, we can't do that with anyone actually, but especially with teens. I like this painting from Dali's global art museum that is in the place where the silver screen used to be (the whole museum is actually a theater that Dali himself has designed). It's the painting right in front of his tomb. It shows a person with an egg instead of a head, a tree where the heart lies that represents life and a gate right in the middle of the stomach, the entrance in the inner world. The guide told us that Dali used eggs to represent a balance between soft and hard - the inside of an egg is soft and sensitive, but the exterior is hard and surrounded with a peel. So he used an egg instead of a head which means the mind must be balanced. But the point of all this painting is that the egg is cracked. In the background there are cypress that are very common on cemeteries and there is also a cliff from the city next to Cadaques where he was visiting the summers in his young age. So this painting is in the beginning of the museum because the main subjects of it are: life, death, inner world/imagination and the balance. It is common knowledge that Dali said that Gala and him were a team, like an egg for example: he was a soft interior, he was sensitive and Gala was his shell so together they were balanced.
This was a long ass explanation but since I'm in Spain and we visited Figueres on Friday, I am allowing myself to talk a little bit about it, trying to comprehend all his other realities and not the reality he chose not to see, that is what I like the most about surrealism. But somehow with this painting of an egg-head I wanted to show you the head of an teenager. Maybe it's normal that we are too soft, maybe not. But it kinda also shows the young naivety and foolishness that comes with this age. We are not balanced, not quiet yet. We are searching for that balance, the harmony that is going to make us realize the sense of life. And I think he, by being with Gala, found this harmony, the soul mate. We are often wondering if we're ever going to experience any of this. I mean, many people don't see the point in Dali's work and his love for his muse, Gala, but I think he was lucky to find something like this. To find something like this in life I think it's not all about luckiness and being well known so that you have a chance to meet more and more people. You have to be true to yourself because, as you know, Gala was also a big support to him. We need someone to hold us and knowing they are soft, too, so we must learn how to hold them, too. It's an mutual relationship where you both get something from it. He was dependent of her.
What comes in your mind when you hear the word hero? I explained how some people might have reacted, but for me, it's someone who can make it just through the day. Someone who has wars inside their head but still carries on and continues to be strong. For me, a hero is someone who cries. Someone who eliminates the cruelty of the world in any kind of way. Some do it with the tears, some with self-harm (which I
don't support. I mean that I don't like self-harm not people who do it), some with parties and some with putting their mind of the bad things that are going on. Every single person on this planet right now is a hero. You're a hero, I'm a hero, they're heroes. It is important that we keep in mind that everyone is fighting a battle they probably don't want to lose. Everyone has a problem on their mind they're afraid they'll not be able to solve and does it all make it easier for them if someone harasses them? No. It makes it even harder because they have to think (besides their own problems) of how to avoid you and not caring what someone says. Don't you think that is stressful? Every single day, trying to look perfect, being your best, yet still feeling rejected and different? I think someone who has their own fears (which all of us do) and keeps on going every day, trying to think positive things, still trying to comfort yourself, is a strong person. Look, I won't say that the people who self-harm are the strongest people. I won't say that they deserve special care and attention. Because that is simply not true and it is unfair if I would do such thing. Everyone has scars - remember that - just not everybody on the outside. Not everyone wants to show their problems to the world, but, like I said, I do respect people who self-harm, people who don't see the solution somewhere else. Like with talking or trying different activities. I know it's hard to start something new because it's hard to just let your mind off something that haunts you everyday. Something that doesn't leave your mind, no matter how hard you try.
And it that moment it is crucial to find help. Someone to talk to, but I know that is not always available, acceptable or necessary. It's just when I talked to my psychologist about my mental problems about insecurity, I instantly started to think out of the box like: "What actually is wrong with me?" I somehow couldn't define my problems no longer, but I still could say what haunts me and she helped me a lot. You don't have to talk to a specialist, it can be someone totally random or a friend, even a family member. Talk does make thins less stressful and makes you realize you were making a mountain out of molehill.
And I think that when you reach that step of talking to someone, finding comfort in another person, finding a refuge, you should be enormously proud of yourself for taking such a big step ahead. I was so proud of myself after the talk with this woman I was ready to explode. I knew that it was good for me to let it out to someone else than my mom, and it felt different, but helped in the same way. You might be surprised by the power of the mind, by the all the things you can change with a will, with a little bit of courage like nothing can harm you. And than just don't let anything harm you. I ran into this amazing quote on Tumblr saying: "Wake up every morning and tell yourself you're a badass bitch from hell and that no one can fuck with you and then don't let anyone fuck with you." I think it's all about knowing what you deserve, knowing where your limits are and that you appreciate yourself enough. Cause when you lose that, when you lose your dignity, you lose everything. And you know what people who have nothing to lose are capable of. You don't wanna be that person and you won't be, because you have so many valuable things to still treasure, that are worth being treasured! Every hero knows where he stands. It wouldn't become a hero if it wouldn't be aware of its powers and abilities. You must discover them and you'll be your own hero. Keep up the good work.
This was a long ass explanation but since I'm in Spain and we visited Figueres on Friday, I am allowing myself to talk a little bit about it, trying to comprehend all his other realities and not the reality he chose not to see, that is what I like the most about surrealism. But somehow with this painting of an egg-head I wanted to show you the head of an teenager. Maybe it's normal that we are too soft, maybe not. But it kinda also shows the young naivety and foolishness that comes with this age. We are not balanced, not quiet yet. We are searching for that balance, the harmony that is going to make us realize the sense of life. And I think he, by being with Gala, found this harmony, the soul mate. We are often wondering if we're ever going to experience any of this. I mean, many people don't see the point in Dali's work and his love for his muse, Gala, but I think he was lucky to find something like this. To find something like this in life I think it's not all about luckiness and being well known so that you have a chance to meet more and more people. You have to be true to yourself because, as you know, Gala was also a big support to him. We need someone to hold us and knowing they are soft, too, so we must learn how to hold them, too. It's an mutual relationship where you both get something from it. He was dependent of her.
don't support. I mean that I don't like self-harm not people who do it), some with parties and some with putting their mind of the bad things that are going on. Every single person on this planet right now is a hero. You're a hero, I'm a hero, they're heroes. It is important that we keep in mind that everyone is fighting a battle they probably don't want to lose. Everyone has a problem on their mind they're afraid they'll not be able to solve and does it all make it easier for them if someone harasses them? No. It makes it even harder because they have to think (besides their own problems) of how to avoid you and not caring what someone says. Don't you think that is stressful? Every single day, trying to look perfect, being your best, yet still feeling rejected and different? I think someone who has their own fears (which all of us do) and keeps on going every day, trying to think positive things, still trying to comfort yourself, is a strong person. Look, I won't say that the people who self-harm are the strongest people. I won't say that they deserve special care and attention. Because that is simply not true and it is unfair if I would do such thing. Everyone has scars - remember that - just not everybody on the outside. Not everyone wants to show their problems to the world, but, like I said, I do respect people who self-harm, people who don't see the solution somewhere else. Like with talking or trying different activities. I know it's hard to start something new because it's hard to just let your mind off something that haunts you everyday. Something that doesn't leave your mind, no matter how hard you try.
And it that moment it is crucial to find help. Someone to talk to, but I know that is not always available, acceptable or necessary. It's just when I talked to my psychologist about my mental problems about insecurity, I instantly started to think out of the box like: "What actually is wrong with me?" I somehow couldn't define my problems no longer, but I still could say what haunts me and she helped me a lot. You don't have to talk to a specialist, it can be someone totally random or a friend, even a family member. Talk does make thins less stressful and makes you realize you were making a mountain out of molehill.
And I think that when you reach that step of talking to someone, finding comfort in another person, finding a refuge, you should be enormously proud of yourself for taking such a big step ahead. I was so proud of myself after the talk with this woman I was ready to explode. I knew that it was good for me to let it out to someone else than my mom, and it felt different, but helped in the same way. You might be surprised by the power of the mind, by the all the things you can change with a will, with a little bit of courage like nothing can harm you. And than just don't let anything harm you. I ran into this amazing quote on Tumblr saying: "Wake up every morning and tell yourself you're a badass bitch from hell and that no one can fuck with you and then don't let anyone fuck with you." I think it's all about knowing what you deserve, knowing where your limits are and that you appreciate yourself enough. Cause when you lose that, when you lose your dignity, you lose everything. And you know what people who have nothing to lose are capable of. You don't wanna be that person and you won't be, because you have so many valuable things to still treasure, that are worth being treasured! Every hero knows where he stands. It wouldn't become a hero if it wouldn't be aware of its powers and abilities. You must discover them and you'll be your own hero. Keep up the good work.
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