Where's The Line?

People tend to mix this term so often and sometimes even under reasonable circumstances, but I have said sometimes. There are, of course, all sorts of exceptions and minority of people who do certain things under certain conditions but still some things are unforgivable and unacceptable. You're probably wondering the whole time what the heck am I really talking about here. Well, for a start I can say reality. Reality is a messed up, confusing and deceiving thing that can lead to all sorts of actions people might regret later. It can play tricks on us many times when we don't even realize; that's why it is so tricky. It contains a hidden meaning behind that mask people pretend to live with and when they finally realize (when it is of course much much too late) what's it all about and that life isn't actually really about having it always so nice and sweet as all the movies are showing, they crash. They collapse and mostly never get back on their feet which can be a tough thing to live with as to confront. Because we all have to one day, if we like it or not so we better do it sooner. I don't mean to sound so cliche all the freaking time, but I need some sort of foundation to even start analyzing the real issue here.

What I was so eager to tell you about was how I recently came along this post on Instagram; just a few fangirls (fangirl (n.): A rabid breed of human female who is obsessed with either a fictional character or an actor. Similar to the breed of fanboy. Have been known to grope and tackle when encountering said obsessions.) talking about their idol (which was Sebastian Stan by the way, who is my greatest celebrity crush as well by the way) and about posts on Tumblr. It said that Sebastian may have said this but it is mot confirmed that he doesn't understand how people call themselves fans when they are rude and mean to him. You probably don't know at the moment what I'm talking about and how does this whole thing make any sense. So let me just explain it to you. 

There are fangirls who take things seriously over the line. And that line isn't there just for fun, it's there for a reason, like with other things. But this time it's about human's emotions and feelings and you simply cannot toy with those. We all often forget that celebrities have feelings, too, and that they need just as much privacy as we do. It's a right that belongs to each and every one of us. Sadly, there are people who don't respect that and think of these celebrities as a piece of meat or a toy they can play with and drop off at any time. It's not that simple and by all means not right or ethically acceptable. Some girls think that everything they do and say that it's in their own good is alright and that they will be forgiven for horrible things they do (like stalking and other creepy, mean things). I understand that some are really... fascinated by their either beauty or character or success or anything related to them really, but there are boundaries that those celebrities wouldn't really like to see you cross. 

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Why? Well simply because, like I said, they have a life, too, and the right to A. live it as they want to and B. not having anyone interrupting it. How would you feel if some complete stranger would invade your privacy and kept on telling dirty things and get creepier by the second? Doesn't really sound like fun, does it? But still, people think that is cool and sexy and totally acceptable. It is not and ever will be. I am aware that just my post won't change anything in this world of madness and mayhem, but I think if even three people would see this, it would be enough for me. Three minds debating over this and wondering about it. That is enough for me and I'd be happy if anything like this would happen. People forget that in this world we are, at the end of the day, all people. And I don't mean in another bullshit realistic way, but I mean that we're all the same. We're all weird and we're all normal. Some people just don't get that and think that celebs are perfect people and then they [fans] get mad if they get a snappy comeback that might get people thinking. That's why I'd never choose fame over nothing. Because you lack privacy and actually a voice of your own, even though it might seem like you've got all the power you wish. In most cases, it's actually the other way around.

I can't really say for myself how I'd react if I'd meet Sebastian Stan and if I wouldn't be starstruck because all of his presence itself, but I know that I'd at least try to control myself. I'm kind of happy Seb isn't that famous yet, because when I see photos and videos of what "fans" do to other, more known, celebrities I get kinda worried for Seb (all other celebrities as well). It's just not right and people actually do nothing to prevent it, except blocking those people and reporting them, which is actually the right thing to do. But what I think really should be done is some sort of article or announcement somewhere that lots of people can see it, in some public place, about this. About invading privacy and where's the line and that you just don't cross it. I see all sorts of things on the Internet nowadays and I'm still not completely sure if I agree with everything that is on. I mean, of course not with the most of it, but I'm just thinking why a person would do it, I'm thinking how can one lose control of themselves this much to let things like that happen. Because, you know, we all possess at least a little bit of self-control and knowing where to stop. But it seems these people just go all the way and never stop. Just to get some things straight: I totally support all fan accounts on Tumblr, Twitter and Facebook and any other social network, and all the fanfictions as well, because... well, simply because we do have the right of that. We do own the right of imagination and unleashing it on paper (actually on screen, but same thing). What isn't right is harass celebrities with those gay fan art and ships and OTPs and so on. I agree that every fangirl needs things like that and I won't deny that I enjoy in some of it myself (only in tasteful ones, though). But to pester them on purpose for signing it or smiling about it is waaay too sick. 

Being in that industry is hard as hell. You get followed all the time, the paparazzi seems to be everywhere at all times, snapping unflattering pictures of you and then getting talked about it everywhere as well... Damn, now that I think about it I don't even comprehend how they get through the day. Some do say you get used to it, though others say you never do. I'm sticking with the second one actually, because like just imagine going on a sweet Saturday night date with a sweet girl/handsome guy you've just met (let's say on a set of your new movie) and you wanted to get to know them better and then suddenly the minute you enter this completely ordinary restaurant there are journalists hidden and people asking you for autographs and nagging all the way. I mean yeah sure they don't call it nagging, but I'd take that for nagging because it is. Period. Truth to be told, if I saw Sebby walking down the street hand in hand with some chick and I saw he's having a good time, I'd leave him alone. Just seeing him would make my day, let alone having him sign my favorite picture of him. But you see, there are just things that you don't interrupt. I like to see Sebastian happy and smiling up to his ears, and seeing some odd fan ruining it all makes me really furious. There was this thing going around on his Instagram where some people called him gay rent boy (Sebastian played a lot of gay roles in his past - and he was freaking amazing in them - so that might have "affected" "fans" in "certain" way) and that he looks like a drug addict with long hair (which was when he was filming Captain America: The Winter Soldier - which I really recommend you go check it out!) and similar shit. I mean, who the hell are those people to judge him? For playing certain roles in his life. For having freaking long hair. In that moment I realized things are getting really uncontrollably out of hand.

I sometimes really wish I had more influence in this world. I sure do dream of it. And I don't mean in possessive fame kind of thing (as Kim K.). But like I wish I was well-known for my art work or something similar to this and then having people to actually listen to me. Having a powerful voice in this society and actually using it for something good. There are lots of celebrities that are using their titles and statuses in well causes and intentions and I'm proud that people like that still exist. And I am also aware that not all of them can use it just like that because of their managers or contracts or I don't know what. In general, I am aware that things are much more complicated than that. 
All I wanted to say tonight is that I hope things will change. That people will realize that there are lines you cannot cross. I am also aware that maybe stalking and harassing may won't stop because those things are simply a part of being famous and putting up with it, I just still hold that tiny bit of hope that it lowers somehow. That celebs still have some air to breath and go wherever the heck they want to without being harassed along the way. Anyway, I hope each person who gets to read this thinks about it a little as well. Because this is a delicate thing that needs to be discussed without any shame and there's something that needs to be done about it. If not that, at least give Seb a freaking break about his hair please, okay? Okay.