Of course, how could I ignore such heart-warming and touching movie that is naturally based on a novel. And not just any novel: a novel by Nicholas Sparks, worldwide known romance writer and I'm not even sorry for exceeding myself here. I don't like to think of myself as a person with a narrowed taste in movies, but this movie is really worth writing a review about. Even if an amateur one, like mine. But I enjoy doing it. I really do. It gives me this feeling like I'm working at a superb magazine, with headquarters in the center of New York itself. Oh well, I really do hope that dream might turn out as a reality one day. But sometimes I'm really confused about my future; I mean I have so many wishes, ambitions already set for myself, but I seem torn between them all. I can't seem to decide which one could truly be my career. I mean, I'm quite aware of the fact that I still have four years (actually three and a half) ahead of me and that in that period of time a lot can change, my ambitions, too. Frankly, I'm just scared that by the time of my graduation I won't be able to decide and suddenly I'll find myself standing on a crossroad, turning my head left and right, unable to decide like a child not knowing with which toy to play. But of course, our future is much more important thing to focus on that a toy, I admit that was a stupid comparison. But anyway, I'm planning to exploit these four years as much as I can, with one goal: finding myself to that point I can decide which career I want for myself. Because I know one doesn't completely find oneself and than has the whole life figured out - we learn and are given lessons throughout entire life and I'm aware of that. But sometimes I wish I was one of those people who would succeed in quite anything and once for a change have a plan that might actually work. Yet again I know it's meaningless to wonder this now because everything can (and will, I'm sure) change in four years.
Oh my god, I sometimes really surprise myself how distant I can get from a subject I started this post at first. But anyway, the subject of my last paragraph and the movie do in fact have a common thing. Future. The whole movie was actually about decisions and the will one has to overcome the hard times of being apart from the love one because of the decisions once made about future. They both, Savannah (which was played by an everlasting beauty, Amanda Seyfried) and John (portrayed by my one of my favorite Hollywood hotties, Channing Tatum) had a complicated future they couldn't escape. They tried and tried to find an easy way out of it, but the truth is that sometimes people meet at the right place at the wrong time. And I guess that is exactly what happened with them. But let's go to the beginning of the movie, including with my analysis.
I must first say how perfect the whole situation of their first greet was. I saw this movie twice, if I recall correctly, but I still sigh with enviousness each time I see them introduce each other and the jealousy of her friends. I think that is called true love, when you automatically connect with the other person, no matter what is going on around you. But don't get me wrong though, there are many other ways and forms of true love, although I haven't seen it on my eyes so far. But I believe in it. I think your soul-mate is someone with whom you can be the most "you" you can possibly be. And I, without a shame or disgrace, believe in that. I think there's nothing wrong with a little bit of hope inside you that keeps you warm during the hard times, when you just want to give it up. When you think none of that crap from movies will ever happen to you in real life. Let's just admit it; we both sometimes dream of that cheesy love they show us on TV. I mean, who wouldn't like being loved? Who wouldn't enjoy somebody's hand in theirs, intertwine their fingers with your own as you feel the safety that kinda floats in your body while their holding your hand. Like nothing could ever harm you again. It's kinda funny writing about this since nobody has ever hold my hand for real. But I dream about it and as I said, I believe that someone will one day come into my life and I'll wonder why the hell was I so insecure back then. That little piece of hope keeps me warm through the night.
Anyway, the spark that automatically flew between them was obvious and everybody knew a beautiful love story has started. When I saw the movie for the first time I was kinda bored when everything went as planned at first and I thought: 'Oh yeah, now a few complications follow that will determine their relationship which is at obvious risk." I admit that I was acting a bit like an idiot that has nothing else in their head than prejudices and is completely impatient. But I have read Sparks's novels before and I knew I wasn't watching this movie just because he wanted to show us some overrated relationship between two beautiful people. I knew there was more to come. And so it did. I wasn't surprised at all when he had to return to army and she went to school, well that's what normal people do, isn't it? But then this question popped: "Will their relationship actually survive?" I was aware that this question would be totally predictable a few moments before, but in that moment when Savannah stood all alone in the middle of chaos at campus I was really worried about them. If their love will survive so much time being apart from each other. I knew, even if I never had a relationship before (I had a long distance friend (Jan, by the way) and you know how that turned out) that it's going to be rough. It's definitely not going to be easy. I was expecting the worse: that any of them would cheat. But I was trying to hold my expectations (that weren't so unrealistic after all) back and just enjoy the movie.
The time passed and as everybody probably already knew, it was hard for both of them to keep up with the things they had in real life and keeping up with their relationship. I personally thought they could manage it, but when the last letter came I really crushed. I was devastated especially because since being military career is very common in the USA, this must happen very often. And just imagining so many lives being crushed when all he did was thinking of her and waited because after all, there was nothing else to do. But when you try to understand Savannah, you realize that it was pretty damn hard for her, too. I think many women get hated because of doing this, but people don't realize how risky that kind of relationship actually is, how strong you have to be to keep holding onto something like this. When you know you won't see a loved one for a freaking year, so many things change in year, if you want it or not. People do change and I guess what Savannah did was for the best, yet I still couldn't understand how could she get engaged so quickly. It had to occur to many people that it seemed like she forgot him in an instant, but I think not. Even when John came back home because his father died, you could see in her eyes how she still loved him no matter what. But sometimes love is not enough. And I think in that situation I finally understood the true meaning of that expression. To have a successful relationship you have to have some patience and will, but we can't say it like that that Savannah didn't posses all of these qualities, because after all, she did wait quite a long time. And I know it was hard for her to face the fact that he's going to have to extend military service, because all of his fellow soldiers were united about this decision so he had to agree as well. He had no choice and so did she and they had to make some kind of compromise, even if it was a harsh one and if one of them couldn't agree on it. I think I can understand Savannah's decision in this; she was lonely (although that shouldn't be always the excuse) and she missed John, she really did, but when she found out how empty her life is without him, should she continue with it and waste her own? She'll always love him, that was clear, but when he was reading that letter and later burning it, my heart was in pain, too. It wasn't an easy decision for him as well to just let go the love of his life and even though when he came back to pay a visit, he wanted an explanation which she owed him, no matter what. She did after all left him just like that and however we're trying to find an excuse for her actions (which we already did), she had to face him one day. She had to go through it once and for all.
Sometimes it's hard to choose between what's right for you and what you want. These concepts are very often two different things, that's what it makes it so hard. We all face it once in a lifetime and it's not fun for anyone. But sometimes you have to take care of yourself first. You have to see where you stand and admit it to yourself that you can't do something anymore and that it's not healthy for you, neither for the people around you. I can feel the pain when she (read: Savannah) walked around the city and she saw happy couples holding hands and snuggle and I can guarantee you that it wasn't easy for her to just let go, too. But she wanted to be happy and she deserved it, like everybody does. So I came to a conclusion that I understand where she's coming from, but at the same time I also understand him, too. Like I said before, they met in the right place at the wrong time. But there's nothing they could ever do anything about it, fate had it planned it all out for them. It was on them to make the hard decisions.
But as we all know it (we as in the people who saw the movie), the movie doesn't end with a bitter visit from John, but it has an continuation and, in my opinion, a happy one. You see, I look at their situation as that the time was the bastard here. The time was their true enemy and they were both young and made decisions that actually marked their life too quickly and in panic and anger they couldn't avoid. They truly loved each other, but just because they broke it off for a bit (okay, I know it was five years) doesn't mean that the love once shared wasn't true and honest. They were just stuck in this position of only two weeks of freedom and happiness left and I'm sure they wanted to make it last forever and make some unforgettable memories because just thinking about the end of the summer pained them both. Having limited time with someone you love and realizing that after that time there is a chance you won't ever see that person again is something truly beyond what I could imagine.
So for what I see, Sparks wanted to put us in this kind of position; to try to imagine what's it like to be on a crossroad of putting your own happiness in danger and at risk or breaking it off with someone and cause a temporary (maybe even semi-permanent) pain to someone. And I think the movie is beyond all another-war-drama-with-cheesy-plot prejudices because when you actually deepen into the plot and the whole story and feelings and situations, then it might just click and you'll be enlightened that things sometimes aren't as simple and easy to solve as they seem at first sight. So I truly give that one to Nicholas and of course the director of the movie for bringing such a tragically beautiful story to life.
(C) Every artwork used is from Google and Tumblr
Oh my god, I sometimes really surprise myself how distant I can get from a subject I started this post at first. But anyway, the subject of my last paragraph and the movie do in fact have a common thing. Future. The whole movie was actually about decisions and the will one has to overcome the hard times of being apart from the love one because of the decisions once made about future. They both, Savannah (which was played by an everlasting beauty, Amanda Seyfried) and John (portrayed by my one of my favorite Hollywood hotties, Channing Tatum) had a complicated future they couldn't escape. They tried and tried to find an easy way out of it, but the truth is that sometimes people meet at the right place at the wrong time. And I guess that is exactly what happened with them. But let's go to the beginning of the movie, including with my analysis.I must first say how perfect the whole situation of their first greet was. I saw this movie twice, if I recall correctly, but I still sigh with enviousness each time I see them introduce each other and the jealousy of her friends. I think that is called true love, when you automatically connect with the other person, no matter what is going on around you. But don't get me wrong though, there are many other ways and forms of true love, although I haven't seen it on my eyes so far. But I believe in it. I think your soul-mate is someone with whom you can be the most "you" you can possibly be. And I, without a shame or disgrace, believe in that. I think there's nothing wrong with a little bit of hope inside you that keeps you warm during the hard times, when you just want to give it up. When you think none of that crap from movies will ever happen to you in real life. Let's just admit it; we both sometimes dream of that cheesy love they show us on TV. I mean, who wouldn't like being loved? Who wouldn't enjoy somebody's hand in theirs, intertwine their fingers with your own as you feel the safety that kinda floats in your body while their holding your hand. Like nothing could ever harm you again. It's kinda funny writing about this since nobody has ever hold my hand for real. But I dream about it and as I said, I believe that someone will one day come into my life and I'll wonder why the hell was I so insecure back then. That little piece of hope keeps me warm through the night.
Anyway, the spark that automatically flew between them was obvious and everybody knew a beautiful love story has started. When I saw the movie for the first time I was kinda bored when everything went as planned at first and I thought: 'Oh yeah, now a few complications follow that will determine their relationship which is at obvious risk." I admit that I was acting a bit like an idiot that has nothing else in their head than prejudices and is completely impatient. But I have read Sparks's novels before and I knew I wasn't watching this movie just because he wanted to show us some overrated relationship between two beautiful people. I knew there was more to come. And so it did. I wasn't surprised at all when he had to return to army and she went to school, well that's what normal people do, isn't it? But then this question popped: "Will their relationship actually survive?" I was aware that this question would be totally predictable a few moments before, but in that moment when Savannah stood all alone in the middle of chaos at campus I was really worried about them. If their love will survive so much time being apart from each other. I knew, even if I never had a relationship before (I had a long distance friend (Jan, by the way) and you know how that turned out) that it's going to be rough. It's definitely not going to be easy. I was expecting the worse: that any of them would cheat. But I was trying to hold my expectations (that weren't so unrealistic after all) back and just enjoy the movie.
The time passed and as everybody probably already knew, it was hard for both of them to keep up with the things they had in real life and keeping up with their relationship. I personally thought they could manage it, but when the last letter came I really crushed. I was devastated especially because since being military career is very common in the USA, this must happen very often. And just imagining so many lives being crushed when all he did was thinking of her and waited because after all, there was nothing else to do. But when you try to understand Savannah, you realize that it was pretty damn hard for her, too. I think many women get hated because of doing this, but people don't realize how risky that kind of relationship actually is, how strong you have to be to keep holding onto something like this. When you know you won't see a loved one for a freaking year, so many things change in year, if you want it or not. People do change and I guess what Savannah did was for the best, yet I still couldn't understand how could she get engaged so quickly. It had to occur to many people that it seemed like she forgot him in an instant, but I think not. Even when John came back home because his father died, you could see in her eyes how she still loved him no matter what. But sometimes love is not enough. And I think in that situation I finally understood the true meaning of that expression. To have a successful relationship you have to have some patience and will, but we can't say it like that that Savannah didn't posses all of these qualities, because after all, she did wait quite a long time. And I know it was hard for her to face the fact that he's going to have to extend military service, because all of his fellow soldiers were united about this decision so he had to agree as well. He had no choice and so did she and they had to make some kind of compromise, even if it was a harsh one and if one of them couldn't agree on it. I think I can understand Savannah's decision in this; she was lonely (although that shouldn't be always the excuse) and she missed John, she really did, but when she found out how empty her life is without him, should she continue with it and waste her own? She'll always love him, that was clear, but when he was reading that letter and later burning it, my heart was in pain, too. It wasn't an easy decision for him as well to just let go the love of his life and even though when he came back to pay a visit, he wanted an explanation which she owed him, no matter what. She did after all left him just like that and however we're trying to find an excuse for her actions (which we already did), she had to face him one day. She had to go through it once and for all.Sometimes it's hard to choose between what's right for you and what you want. These concepts are very often two different things, that's what it makes it so hard. We all face it once in a lifetime and it's not fun for anyone. But sometimes you have to take care of yourself first. You have to see where you stand and admit it to yourself that you can't do something anymore and that it's not healthy for you, neither for the people around you. I can feel the pain when she (read: Savannah) walked around the city and she saw happy couples holding hands and snuggle and I can guarantee you that it wasn't easy for her to just let go, too. But she wanted to be happy and she deserved it, like everybody does. So I came to a conclusion that I understand where she's coming from, but at the same time I also understand him, too. Like I said before, they met in the right place at the wrong time. But there's nothing they could ever do anything about it, fate had it planned it all out for them. It was on them to make the hard decisions.
But as we all know it (we as in the people who saw the movie), the movie doesn't end with a bitter visit from John, but it has an continuation and, in my opinion, a happy one. You see, I look at their situation as that the time was the bastard here. The time was their true enemy and they were both young and made decisions that actually marked their life too quickly and in panic and anger they couldn't avoid. They truly loved each other, but just because they broke it off for a bit (okay, I know it was five years) doesn't mean that the love once shared wasn't true and honest. They were just stuck in this position of only two weeks of freedom and happiness left and I'm sure they wanted to make it last forever and make some unforgettable memories because just thinking about the end of the summer pained them both. Having limited time with someone you love and realizing that after that time there is a chance you won't ever see that person again is something truly beyond what I could imagine.
So for what I see, Sparks wanted to put us in this kind of position; to try to imagine what's it like to be on a crossroad of putting your own happiness in danger and at risk or breaking it off with someone and cause a temporary (maybe even semi-permanent) pain to someone. And I think the movie is beyond all another-war-drama-with-cheesy-plot prejudices because when you actually deepen into the plot and the whole story and feelings and situations, then it might just click and you'll be enlightened that things sometimes aren't as simple and easy to solve as they seem at first sight. So I truly give that one to Nicholas and of course the director of the movie for bringing such a tragically beautiful story to life.
(C) Every artwork used is from Google and Tumblr
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