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Fashion Industry; How It Affects Youngsters

We all know how teenagers (especially girls) love all the magazines and want to look up to the latest models, singers and actresses. How they want to look like them everyday, comparing themselves with celebrities who are in the spotlight 24/7 and have spent hours and hours on make-up and hair. It's hard looking at young people destroying themselves by trying to look like someone they're not, lying to themselves and wasting their youth. I don't know if you realized, but lately this kind of lifestyle became very popular among teenagers - being all bad and naughty or something in that way. It's pretty sad seeing all these beautiful, unique people fooling themselves and trying to fit in this fucked up society. For myself I can say that I do not belong among those who care about what society has in mind for me or care about society at all. But what about those who do? What about those who have nothing else to do but to live up to people's expectations? For who we all think they'll be okay anyway?

In the past year I've really tried to change myself in many ways: the relationships inside my family, the attitude to myself and also trying to be a better person to the people around me. I tried to thought about others, too, and about their battle they're fighting. But I've kinda always been that way - sensitive to others. Sometimes it wasn't good for me, sometimes not good for others. But I know that it is better to slow down sometimes, not always say what first pops in your mind because not everyone always want to hear the truth or at least not yet. There's this beautiful quote by Khaled Hosseini: "And that's the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everyone else does, too." And I am not saying you should to lie to people but sometimes an innocent little white lie can truly make someone's day or maybe you can help them a lot more that you thought you could just with a small little sentence. So I really defend that you think twice before speaking or at least open your mind before your mouth. It can have bigger influence on people that you might think.

So let's get to the point of the title - what do I mean and how would fashion industry really affect teenagers across the world? Well, let me start off by saying that many girls (from now on I will only speak for girls because it is mostly happening to the female part of the teen generation, but I know it happens to boys, too) spend their time browse through actual fashion magazines that include not only fashion trends and advice, but contain many photos of skinny models walking down the catwalk on the fashion shows of the world known brands. You can't deny that you sigh at the sight of being so well known and, to be fair, skinny. But before the outrage starts let me just get one thing straight: I do not defend those malnourished models and their job at all. I am totally against it and especially because you have to be pretty young when you start your career and there is just to much pressure. But hey, those girls know what they're getting themselves into and to be totally frank - only rare models really succeed and it is very often because they hooked up with someone or they had some kind of connections. I am also not against anyone wanting to be a model in a future, it's just my personal opinion as this whole site is about. But anyway, back to the point: try to see the world through a teenage girl's eyes, what is surrounding her and what could she possibly think of herself while there is so many pressure already outside of the fashion industry among the "normal" young girls in school that are completely but I mean always surrounded by this kind of news - news of being unhealthy skinny. I'm totally for healthy way of loosing weight if you really want it and want to first of all do it for yourself and fitness and stuff like that. But loosing weight for someone else, to impress people around you is completely misguided and wrong. The way that the media shows how a "healthy" woman should look and post a over-skinny girl next to the article is too much, even for me that this kind of crap doesn't touch me. Now imagine how it is for girls that actually "live" for that kind of news. That can't sleep because of the thoughts that are creeping into their minds about not being good enough. I think that a healthy and happy woman is a woman who is first content with her body - no matter what kind of size it is; a big size or a small size (I won't even mention those stupid numbers). However, there is a limit of being a healthy persona and that limit is to from, time to time, you go out jogging or just being one with nature and move your skinny or thick bum. Doesn't matter; you have to move at least two to three times a week and trust me, your body will be thankful and also you will feel way better and sleep better.

I just wish I could convince those naive little innocent girls that being skinny isn't a way to be happy. Being is a state of mind and not of body. You have to accept yourself in your mind to realize something true as happiness and realizing how beautiful you are no matter what you weight. But it is a long way to that goal and that kind of problem might stick in society long after our generation will be gone, but life is also full of opportunities and chances, experiences and I wish to use them as much as I can to start making this world a better place for the following generations. Of course, one must always start with himself.

Now there is another problem with Tumblr I have found and it is how there are several posts that literally push girls into starting to worry about their already normal body. The more pictures I see about getting skinny and those annoying thigh gaps, the more I realize how we are slowly turning into being robots. One day we will be all the same and that's what truly scares me. I love how each person is born different - different shapes and sizes and is given so many beautiful features from mother nature herself. I wish I
could light up those sad eyes of the starving teenagers around the world and make them appreciate what they have. And I love it when I see (while I still can) so many different people in so many ways - different hair styles, colors, shapes, heights, clothing, faces, lipstick and smiles. So many different types of human beings and I love it. I love to watch them walk and react to things, it's like addiction to me. It makes me happy to still see so many different people around me, yet so many are changing or already are. But all I can do right now, at this moment when I'm not that old, I can take care about my closest friends. In the way I can make them feel as many times special as I can. To make them smile and laugh. That's all I want to see in my friends. Of course, by having friends, there comes many new conflicts, problems and difficulties that at first glance seem very annoying and unnecessary, but when that friendship somehow dies you miss those little conversations that in fact mean a lot more than they seemed. That's why I learned to appreciate every single thing I have with anyone because I know it can change any minute. Yet I do not live in fear, I only realize the time, the small amount of time we have at disposal that is waiting to be used wisely. And I hope I am using it quite wisely. And with right people. So I don't want any of them to feel somethig that at the same time makes them feel like under too much pressure. And by helping them out, I hope I am being a good friend.

And that is what good friends in my opinion do; helping friends realize that beauty doesn't measure in numbers of the size you're wearing but the size of your heart, the size of your smile, the size of your brain if we must go that far. But it's true, it really is beautiful when a girl is smart or at least wise or bright, it is very appealing. Yet many girls (and other people, too) being smart or wise is in your grades or how you're doing in school. It's much more than that and we all know it. There is a very optimistic quote by Courtney E. Martin: "You know what’s really, powerfully sexy? A sense of humor. A taste for adventure. A healthy glow. Hips to grab on to. Openness. Confidence. Humility. Appetite. Intuition. … Smart-ass comebacks. Presence. A quick wit. Dirty jokes told by an innocent-looking lady. … A storyteller. A genius. A doctor. A new mother. A woman who realizes how beautiful she is." This such a powerful quote and definitely one of my favorites. Physical beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, but the true beauty, that is really glowing out of a person, even if she or he is not a Victoria's Secret Angel or a Calvin Klein model. We are different in every way from each other and with each day I'm starting to realize that, I'm starting to notice it in the most ordinary situations. It doesn't scare me; actually I find it very satisfying. I love it how something different defines each person and maybe it's not always visible at first sight. We are born originals, don't die a copy. 

(C) Every artwork used is from Google and Tumblr

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